Colour or Culture?

As I said in the Introductory Post, I have had several friends of colour over the years, but I am aware that they have all been second or third generation immigrants, brought up in this country, and comfortable with British culture, and seeming to be every bit as English or British as I am.

I am less at ease, and find it harder to be friends with, first generation immigrants who reflect more of the culture of their own country. 

Once they have become more english, life is easier - for me. Whether it is easier or better for them is another question.

I think that begs two questions, neither of which I am attempting to answer in this post. 

Is it right, or fair, or reasonable for me to expect them to do all the adjustment and become more British, rather than me to do more of the adjustment?

I think it is probable, or at least possible, that I am quicker to adjust to people recently arrived from Europe. Would that be because there is a shared European culture, or because they are white? I do not know. 

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